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7 Bollywood Celebs Who Went From Fat To Fit

Not everyone is gifted with skinny bodies. These stars have faced some weight issues in the past too. But the fit body is everything when it comes to showing business, so they did their best to achieve a dream shape! Let’s face it, we can’t help but admire their struggles on the way to hot bodies. Just sit back and take a look at Bollywood divas who went from flab to fab.

 

Sonakshi Sinha
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Her weight loss journey from a plump teen to a hot diva wasn’t an easy task, Sonakshi never really cared about those extra pounds as a kid. In fact, if it wasn’t for her co-star Salman Khan, she would never lose almost 30 kg for her first movie. Some simple mantras helped her lose those extra kilos even though she used to weigh almost 90.

 

Sonam Kapoor
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Today’s Bollywood style icon once weighed around 86 kg! Yes, you read it right. Sonam put on some weight while she was studying in Singapore, but shortly after the leading role proposal, she managed to lose almost 35 kg by working out and going on a strict diet. And of course, Sonam Kapoor stunned everyone with her tremendous weight loss when she made an entry in the world of glam.

 

Kareena Kapoor
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Bollywood diva worked hard to flaunt her sexy size zero figure in Tashan. Women all over the world might have spent some sleepless nights hoping to achieve such weight loss results. She was one of the first women in Bollywood with size-zero figure. She lost around 28 kg, but now she is not such a big fan of size-zero and still manages to look toned and fit.

 

Alia Bhatt
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A stunning Bollywood star who made her debut in “Student of the Year” wasn’t as thin as she is now. Alia was asked to lose 20 kg in 6 months in order to look the part. So, she rose to the challenge and shaded 16 kg in 3 months. Hats off, Alia!

 

Parineeti Chopra
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Priyanka’s cousin admits that before entering Bollywood she had some weight issues and weighed 86 kg. She realized that her acting skills alone are not enough for show biz and thus began her slimming endeavor.

 

Aishwarya Rai
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Aishwarya Rai’s post pregnancy weight gain got a lot of media criticism. She ignored haters making her family the main priority. But she got into shape shortly and came back flaunting her sexy curves and fit body again. Her weight loss secret is healthy food and regular yoga.

 

Zarine Khan
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She is an inspiration for everyone who struggles to lose extra kilos. Considering her flawless figure now, it’s quite hard to believe Zarine used to weigh 100 kg! When she decided to fulfill her ambition of becoming a model she lost all those oodles of fat already within a year. With right diet and exercise, she managed to reduce her weight to 57 kilos. Well done, Zarine!

30-Days Sex Challenge

The life is full of various challenges. Sometimes, waking up in the morning is a daily challenge too. But social media influencers set new trials nearly daily. 30-days beach body challenge, 30-days workout challenge, 30-days avocado challenge, etc. Men mostly hate those struggling to live with comfort while their partners try hard to complete the race. But this time we can offer something special for guys – 30-days sex challenge.

Who doesn’t like making love? Especially when you have no long standing partner and can afford going out with new girls daily. The next month can give you a valid reason to make your girlfriend (or girlfriends) tsleep with you once a day with no excuses. So, here is the deal:

Basic rules

This challenge is as simple as it could be – all you need is having sex once a day. You can make it twice, but no credits follow. It can work only for your own appreciation of your male power. You can’t miss the next day or skip sex time on the previous one.

Sex types

All types of lovemaking are allowed. When there is an interaction – the day is counted as a valid one. Some guys prefer more oral sex than regular frictions and that still works. So, basically you are free to choose from the types of pleasure you want.

Time for action

There is no need to launch a timer as you two (or three, or even more) jump into the bed. The challenge is called to improve your sex life, so just relax and enjoy the show. It doesn’t matter if you like it quick or prefer long lovemaking – it still counts.

Location choice

Do not stay in bed. That’s good and you know the poses that work best for you there, but 30-days sex challenge is the time to explore. Any surface in your house fits – go and try it. It happens that couples discover new spots to give them double pleasure and they have never thought about making love there. Create a schedule where you list all rooms and surfaces to try for your sex games – we guarantee you a wonderful adventure.

Sex toys

Those men who have one partner for a long time admit that their sex life is not as passionate as it was in the beginning of their relations. This challenge is a wonderful opportunity to spice up their intimacy and try some new approaches. This is why buying some sex toys is a wise thing to do.

Rough days

There are days when partners hate to see each other. One tiny misunderstanding leads to huge fights and couples split for a whole night sleeping in separate rooms. That is not the reason you should break challenge rules. But who makes love when there are blocks between you two? First of all find ways to make peace as soon as possible. Then use some of your sexiest moves and poses to attract your partner and only after that complete your challenge. Couples, who went through all 30 days say it helped their relationship a lot and they are now more caring and understanding to each other.

 

Korean hysteria is still on. Since the moment K-Pop entered our lives – people from all continents found their true love. Girls dream of Korean husbands, guys are looking for Asian girlfriends. There is a theory that they have conquered us with rainbow videos, photos and other items. Old good Europe, conservative Australia and stylish America have lived with a feeling that all those fancy pink, purple and blue outfits with cartoon characters are only for kids.

Once we grow up – we should choose more calm palette and try to differ from teens for as much as we can. But then there comes this Korean blessing and people around us transform. They are not afraid of showing off in unicorn t-shirts and other cute outfits. Seems like the whole world became brighter.

But Sous Korea is not only about unicorns, kawai and rainbows. It is also about beautiful people. Have you seen their professional models? Thin and delicate ladies with pale complexion and deep dark eyes. If you think their women are proud owners of teen-like bodies – you should slap yourself into a face and take a look at these stunners:

Chaeeun Sarah Lee

A professional model and actress who can brag with some quite impressive contracts. Chuu Korea, WingsGirl and K-Star are on her list and yet is more to come. You can find her in some of the most successful music videos and popular TV shows. Camera loves Chaeeun Sarah Lee and this love is forever. With thin waist and nice boobs and bottom she will always have new roles.

Banana

Her real name is Lee Sang Bi and she is another successful model and instagrammer. If you love girls with long hair and unique appearance – don’t miss to subscribe. She shares rather revealing photos and is not afraid to show off her body in tiny swimsuits. About 250,000 are watching her every move. We should say here, that Banana is quite busy: she’s appeared in several music videos, including MASC’s ‘Strange’ and Elo’s ‘Rose.’

Gabi Moon

When you first look at her photo – there is only 1 thought in the head: ‘Is she from space?’ She has non typical face for South Koreans, but she is of Korean origin. Her WOW moment is the hips. Gabi is often compared to Jennifer Lopes over this body part. And is you are looking for some really hot Insta girl to follow – Gabi Moon won’t disappoint you. Her profile was granted top 10 sexiest Insta accounts by 10 Magazine.

Lee Hee Eun

One of the most hated and the most loved Korens in this list. Why loved? – Just look at her photo. Why hated? – Go check it once again. She is a fashion designer and she needs no models to sell her items. Lee has flawless figure and she often promotes her own outfits. Thus her followers bullied her for what they thought were all-photoshopped images. As someone couldn’t be just that gorgeous. Her reply was fascinating – she shared a video of her posing in all-tight latex overall.

Kang Ye-Bin

This lady with gorgeous body is 35 but men are still at her feet. And recently she got into a trouble. Sex scandal gained momentum when the gossip industry brought rumors she had sponsors. That’s a huge trouble for every girl in South Korea. The reputation will be ruined forever. But Kang Ye-Bin dealt with it and keeps making us happy with hot pictures in her Insta.

What is sexiness? When browsing through Insta accounts we meet numerous models’ profiles. They try to attract the audience with huge boobs and big butts. But when we get too much of it – we just start looking for something else. Our eyes need some new unique features to get real pleasure. And when we come across someone like our today’s hero – our jaws drop.

Meet one of the sexiest girls on Instagram. Her name is Natascha Encinosa and she is a popular personal trainer, model, online coach and all-round fitness enthusiast. But her story is even more inspiring when digging deep into details of her bio. She was born back in 1996 and was just like millions of other kids all over the globe.

But in her teens she realized she was a bit overweight and kept gaining. Although her family and friends supported her as much as they could, there was one event chat turned her world upside down. Natascha fell in love with a nice guy and they even dated for a while. But then suddenly her boyfriend said he wanted to break up. She just wanted to know what happened. So, he said she was too fat for an awesome pall like him.

What do girls do next under such circumstances? Break into tears, feel pity about themselves, grab an ice cream. And right after that they start thinking on their own revenge plan. Natascha just wanted to prove he was so wrong about her. She wanted him to feel sorry and at least make a step for their reunion.

Encinosa went to the gym. She was a skilled dancer and was only interest in starting her fitness workouts. But never dared to visit gyms or hire personal trainers. With support of family and friends, Natascha started working out. Soon she came to 2-hour trainings 5 times a week. What was her aim? To get super fit and sexy legs. The aim was reached in 4 years.

She adored her new look: fit butt, thin waist and massive hips – 66 cm each. One day they just became larger than her waist and that made Natascha so proud of herself that she decided to share her amazing results on Instagram. Is there a need to say she won her thousands of followers pretty fast. They encourage her with romantic comments, although there are are guys who have dirty thoughts when looking at her photos.

She often receives messages from men asking her to squeeze their heads between her legs, etc. however, most of followers are friendly. They say she looks like a sexy centaur or Chun-Li – a character in Capcom’s Street Fighter series. She was the very first female fighter and made millions of men dream of her. Just like miss Encinosa today.

Her shots look more than impressive. Especially those where she strikes her pose in dresses with super high cuts. Followers even start arguing about any lingerie present on her while taking those kinky and hot photos.

The 31-year old was born as Lilit Martirosyan in Armenia. The girl had typical appearance for the region with somewhat dark skin and long black hair. However, when the girl just saw a Barbie doll with stunning blue eyes and blond locks she realized how hard she wanted to be just like her. If those were the dreams of a poor Armenian girl – they would have left there in her fantasies. But Lilit had money as here family was quite rich.

How could loving parents deny an innocent request of their princess to slightly improve the way she looked? Well, it started like that and all family and friends were sure Lilit would stop after the first procedure. As she was considered beautiful and there were dozens of admirers ready to pop the question to her.

[the_ad_placement id=”between-content”]However, marriage was not something to rise her interest. She dreamed of a career and new boobs. And she just went for it. Lilit’s parents were shocked to see how drastically their daughter transformed her face and body. She died her hair blonde and got her dreamed blue eyes. Then, of course, she wen through her boob job and enlarged her lips. Rhinoplasty made her nice authentic nose thin and weird looking if compared to those huge eyes and plump lips.

[the_ad_placement id=”ads-in-feed”]Was that the reason to stop? Martirosyan’s answer is ‘NO!’. Then she decided her butt was not good enough. She looked at those insta stunners and their gym struggles. First she thought she could join an army of working out girls in order to improve her bottom. But why to sweat at the gym if you have some $5,000 for new bum. Weeks of recovery instead of months of working out and her new body part was close to perfection.

Rather conservative Armenians considered her too weird. Opinions differ: some of them thought she was too brave to break the rules, but the others thought she had ruined her own beauty and looked more like a cyborg now.

[the_ad_placement id=”ads-in-feed”]Lilit realized 1 thing – she became a foreign native. So, there was the only right decision – to run away. She has changed her name to Lily Morto and moved abroad. She tasted the freedom in Europe and stayed in Milano for study. Lily dreams to be a designer and a significant figure in fashion industry.

[the_ad_placement id=”between-content”]Morto woke up famous after participating in a reality show where Rodrigo Alves (a guy who went through multiple surgeries to look like real life Ken doll) was looking for a mate. Morto says there was a sparkle between them, but it was not enough for serious relationship.

However, the girl met her true love and is now dating a cute and rich plastic surgeon. The couple is enjoying their luxury life, traveling together and seems to be really happy.

This love affair made the difference: now Lily shares less provocative images with her followers. No naked bums and huge boobs close ups. Just a girl who looks quite different from average instamodels.







What is the best thing about girls we all love? Your girlfriend might be the smartest and the most intelligent person who bakes delicious pies, brings you beer home even if you don’t ask her to and earns six figures. But you won’t deny that you love her the most for her bust.

Busty girls know all eyes are on them and their boobs are actually some of the most powerful weapons in this world. If we take showbiz – we won’t deny most of A-ranked stars are enjoying their CCs or DDs. And those who don’t mostly rush to plastic surgeons for getting their dream boobies.

What is the best way to demonstrate gorgeous bust? Most people think it’s about a deep cleavage. But we are sure here – underboob look is a must for every busty woman. Here we offer you to stare at the most popular divas rocking their ultra crop tops.

Jennifer Lopez

This Latina babe is first of all famous for her royal hips. But her breasts are something she should be proud of too. JLo mostly likes disposing her flat abs, but we have found a photo of her wearing a tiny white top that grants her tits some freedom from down there. Amazing look, don’t you think?

Kim Kardashian

Is there anyone who haven’t seen this chick totally naked? What a body! But it is hard to disagree that Kim looks sexier when there is at least some tiny outfit on her. Just like this daring swimsuit. Her boobs are so huge it just can’t cover them completely, this is why we can enjoy watching their lower part.

Kylie Jenner

Kim’s little sister is trying to copy her popular sibling’s look and behavior. No wonder she once went out dressed in this bandage dress with a huge gap on her belly. Maybe if her breasts were smaller – they won’t be visible. But we have what we have and should be grateful for such impressive curves being disposed. Well done, Kylie!

Lady Gaga

Her extravagant outfits always show off another side of this super talented woman. We have seen her rocking the deepest cleavages, enjoying her naked breasts with only the nipples covered with sassy stickers and now it is time to check out her underboobs. Actually, it’s much more than just ‘under’, but we don’t mind. Gaga looks fantastic in whatever she puts on.

Nicki Minaj

This lady is a real underboob queen. It is hard to find an image of her that was not discussed and appreciated by thousands of internet users. She knows fans adore her shapes. Without a doubt she has one of the most gorgeous bodies in the entire universe and she treats it the best way: all the trendy revealing outfits are bought for it. Just like this one.

Rita Ora

Do you remember Rita flashing her butt at Coachella? Catching this singer disposing her boobs is not an easy task. But we were lucky to see she has posted her bikini selfie. Here we can see she knows how to rock her underboob as well.








Version 2.0 of myself was an incredible upgrade

I was recently reading in a study by Stanford University that in a 7 to 10 year period, every cell within the human body will have completely replaced itself.

In essence, the physiological version of yourself that is reading this story is an entirely different creature than the version of yourself that existed a decade ago, but that your memories are the thing that persist and they in turn help inform and drive your present and future behavior.

If you think of it that way, it’s like you save everything to the cloud and then you replace your computer and upgrade your software, but the data remains the same.

I was having lunch with a client yesterday and they run a company here in Sydney that’s working on artificial intelligence when this topic came up. This young man said that they are constantly adding new and better hardware to their “stack”. Their engineers spend weeks tweaking and writing new code to drive better results for their algorithms.

But at the end of the day, the quality of everything they do is predicated on how well they ingest and interpret the historical data that their software “learns” from to inform their AI.

It was like one of those epiphany moments that you have in life.

Scott Adams, the creator of Dilbert, often refers to humans as “moist robots”.

This conversation made me realize just how apt that comment was. I sat there listening to this young man talk about the technical and mathematical wizardry that he and his colleagues were using, but my mind was off and racing thinking about my own existence.

As I sat quietly pondering my own existence, lunch came to an end and I decided to go to the gym. Tuesday is usually the day where I punish my legs and ass with squat lifts, but on this day, I hit the pool and then sat naked under my towel in the steam room for a while just thinking.

In a sublime moment of humility, I realized that I’m just like a computer that’s had its programming changed and is taking advantage of its hardware more effectively.

I’m like Beth 2.0 now.

I Was Like A Stepford Wife

I was asleep in a lot of ways.

Jamie is lovely, gentle, and one of the most caring, kind men you’ll ever have the privilege of meeting. There isn’t a day that goes by where I don’t look at him and say a little word of thanks for stumbling across him back at uni.

But in many ways, his accommodating nature and how little he demands of me allowed me to live a large part of my life in a state of perpetual relaxation.

We’re both lawyers, so we have never really had any financial stress. He’s really placid and non-confrontational, so we never have huge fights. His libido has always been below average and his sexual requirements have been “pedestrian” so I’ve never had to do anything sexually to please him.

I just had to go to work, share in the housework, push out a couple of babies, and be the person who coordinates the groceries while he makes sure the bills are paid on time. Decisions would be made by mutual consent and in the event of a disagreement, we’d rationally talk it out and find a middle ground.

So to be fair, if I was like a Stepford Wife, then he was like my Stepford Husband — we were blissfully going through life as stress-free as possible.

I think I need to be careful about the use of the Stepford Wife analogy because it wasn’t like I was some kind of “wife slave” or he was my “manservant”. We both had roles in our relationship that we enjoyed playing, but that didn’t require us to work harder or think more.

We were cruising through life, fucking once a week, making sure our kids were at all of their activities on time, and that everyone thought we were normal and happy.

And we were happy. We still are.

But happiness is a scale.

Within the context of my life’s experience before Jamie’s accident, I would have said my life was an 8 out of 10 in terms of happiness. Oddly enough, one of my biggest “complaints” was that I would have enjoyed sex a bit more, even though it was mediocre, I felt that “we” could do better.

Note: I didn’t think we could have “better sex”, I felt that we as a couple could have more sex to get to some kind of twice per week average like “normal” couples. That sums up where my head was.

Upgrading To Beth 2.0

The night of the accident was like the beginning of my upgrade process.

It became quickly apparent that our lives were going to be different when the doctors told me he was lucky to be alive but that there were no guarantees that he’d ever walk again or even be able to feed and clean himself.

I’d like to talk about how I was grateful just that he was alive and how I knew that we’d get through whatever challenges were in front of him, but that would frankly just be bullshit.

My first thought when hearing that Jamie could potentially be quadriplegic and need 24-hour care for the rest of his life was something along the lines of, “Fuck… What am I going to do now?”

Sticking with the computer analogy, my operating system crashed. I took a programming class at a local TAFE one time for fun (because I’m a giant loser) and I would describe my state of mind as a Kernal Panic. My brain was confronting an error it was not able to recover quickly.

For the next couple of days, I just wandered to and from the hospital in a state of shock. The doctors were saying the right things, but if I was listening, I wasn’t really paying much attention.

After a week when Jamie was conscious and he could feel his hands and toes, the cloud kind of lifted. By the end of the third week, he was starting to move his limbs and I felt a bit of relief.

I went home that night, put the girls to bed, poured the biggest glass of red wine that I could find, and crawled into the bathtub to try and let the tension soak out of me. Surrounded by candles, listening to Brahms on Spotify, and taking gulps of wine, I reached down under the water and rubbed my clitoris until I lay shuddering in the water.

And then I did it again.

I crawled out of the tub, blew out the candles, dragged the bottle of wine, and my naked body into my bed, and I spent the next two hours fingering myself and rubbing my clit. I would stop to drink or refill my glass, then go back to wanking myself.

I passed out covered in a light sweat and woke up to the baby monitor as 6:30am, naked, with the bedsheets strewn off the end of the bed. I was hungover and my whole body ached in a good way. It was like the weight of the world had momentarily been lifted from me.

I walked into the baby’s room and picked her up and my older daughter came in, finding me naked holding her sister. We went downstairs, I fed my youngest, made toast for my oldest, and got myself a cup of coffee. My daughter said to me, “Mummy, are you going to put on clothes today?”

It was like the bath the night before was a reboot and the masturbation was an operating system upgrade because I woke up in the same body but feeling incredibly different.

Before that night, I’d maybe masturbated two or three times in ten years.

After that night for the next few months, I regularly fell asleep from the sheer exhaustion of pleasuring myself at the end of the day. It was stress relief, it was enjoyable, it was me discovering that I was a sexual being.

It was the new Beth 2.0 user interface tour — I was getting used to the new me.

CTRL-ALT-Delete and Replace The User

We have an IT guy in our office here at work and whenever you have a problem with your computer, he will use the same joke when you ask him how to fix the issue, “Have you tried replacing the user?”

The problem with my sex life was, sadly, operator error.

Before the accident and his subsequent erectile issues, Jamie was a very mediocre lover. I enjoyed sex with him because it was with him. Feeling him enter me and the weight of his body on top of me felt brilliant, but sexually, it was like being stabbed with his penis for a minute or two and then leaking for a couple of hours while I slept.

And I have to take some responsibility here too. I wasn’t experienced or confident enough to tell him how to pleasure me or make sex better for me, so he didn’t know what I liked.

I remember one evening before our daughters came along, we were in our living room watching cricket and I decided that I needed to give him oral sex. I don’t know why or how the urge came about, but I needed to feel his cock in my mouth, so I bent over and pulled him out to suck him off.

He looked at me with bemusement as I started and then, like most times when I would orally pleasure him, he would cum within a minute or two. I made sure that I didn’t leave any behind and cleaned him up properly with my mouth.

He said that he’d like to return the favor, which was pretty rare, he was never someone who spent much time giving me oral sex and I had never really enjoyed it, so it never featured much in our sex life.

I pulled down my shorts and laid back on the couch to let him do his thing. After a couple of minutes of him licking my pussy like it was soft-serve ice cream, I gave him some directions, but it never got any better. I eventually worried that his tongue would get sore, faked an orgasm, told him it was great, and we went back to watching cricket.

Now, fast forward to a time about two years after Jamie’s accident and I was in the early stages of exploring sex with other men outside my marriage.

I met this one guy randomly at a bar after work, ended up renting a hotel room with him so that we could have sex, and before we could even get our clothes off, he was on his knees, under my skirt, tugging my panties down, and sucking my pussy while I stood there in front of him.

The waves of orgasms came quickly and hard. As this random bar guy tongued me to completion standing up, my knees buckled. He pushed me back onto the bed and as I pulled my skirt up over my waist and he pulled my panties off entirely, he crawled between my legs and spent the next twenty minutes just pleasuring me with his mouth and his fingers.

In subsequent encounters with various men, I met guys who could make me cum in a variety of ways and positions. Sure, I hooked up with guys who were terrible sexually, but I barely remember them. I do remember the guys who blew my mind though.

And part of the situation that changed was not only did I replace the user, in the form of my husband, but I also became more familiar and comfortable explaining my own user interface. When I was with a man who seemed keen or comfortable, I would give him subtle directions on how he could pleasure me and most men seemed entirely willing, if not downright excited, to go get the “What’s New” tour to my hardware platform.

These computer analogies are getting a bit tiresome, yeah?

Becoming A Power User

Over the last three and a half years, my life has blossomed — it was like upgrading from Windows Vista to MacOS.

Ok, no more lame computer jokes, I promise.

Seriously though, everything about my life is better now because I’m not just meandering through life being mediocre anymore.

It’s so cliche, but life just seems brighter, more colorful and vibrant now. I do everything with more purpose and intent.

I eat better, I work out more regularly and harder, I throw myself into work more, I am more present with my daughters and husband, and yes, when I decide that I’m going to fuck someone, I get after it with full intensity.

Life tastes better and I enjoy every day so much more.

I was having lunch with my mother a few weeks back after seeing her speak to some young female law students. I told her how inspiring it was to see her up there, encouraging young women to grab life by the balls, and telling them that they can have it all — health, career, family, and love.

She smiled at me, “Betty, you inspire me too. I see how much you’ve come out of your shell the last few years and to me, you’re everything. You are everything that I dreamed you’d grow up to become and more.”

Aside from bringing a tear to my eye that just reaffirmed everything that I was thinking about myself over the past little while.

Becoming the part of porn industry is always a huge risk. Disposing a not-so-nice way you earn money is always a big responsibility. Meaning, if a hooker can live her life lying to family and friends she is a night secretary in a law firm, porn actresses have no chance to hide the way they earn their living. All their family, friends and even primary school teachers will have a chance to see their goodies right in action. And this is the choice they make in that rat race for fame and money.

1. August Ames

AVN Adult Entertainment Expo 2014 at the Hard Rock Hotel in Las Vegas Nevada on January 18, 2014

Her real name is Mercedes Grabowski and she was a daughter of a military dad. Which means the girl was raised with strict discipline and was severely punished for misbehavior. Looks like she ran away from her parens as only she turned 18 and became an X-rated star in 2014. the girl managed to cast in around 300 movies until her tragic death in 2018. her poor husband found hundreds of screenshots that confirmed the 23-year old actress was severely bullied and that just broke her heart.

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2. Janine Lindemulder

This lady is known the most for her lesbian scenes. She is the definite quin of soft porn. Her image of a medical sister made male hearts beat faster and became one of the most popular fantasies for guys. Her career was so prominent we thought it would never end up. But back in 2008 Janine was arrested and go to jail for evasion of the payment of taxes. She had $200,000 debt but was not hurrying to pay it back. Lindemulder spent about $700,000 for a new mansion and 2 cars instead. Now she is free again and is trying hard to pull her life together.

3. Jenni Lee

Her real name is Stephanie Saddora. She tried herself in many fields – she was a mainstream model, a stripper and even featured in commercials. Back in 2003 she joined adult film industry and popped up with hardcore movies. Lee was only 21. 6 years by then she chose to retire and concentrate on modeling career only, but as we know, Jenni faced certain financial issues. Then she just disappeared. A few months ago, this lady, who is still rated 119 best porn actress at Porn Hub was found. In Las Vegas. As a homeless. She actually has a home, if you can call that a cave beneath a strip. But Lee claims it’s her choice and she is quite happy where she is.

4. Mia Khalifa

Mia has only started her career when director offered her a scene in hijab. She gladly agreed and due to her Lebanon origin looked perfect in it. Right after the movie was released – Mia started receiving life threats from strangers and people she knew. She had to change her location and retired from porn industry. She says she received only $12,000 for her hijab scenes, but suffered much more from stress of online bullying and threats.

Secure attachment isn’t addictive.

Insecure relationships feel like you’re stuck on a rollercoaster. As sickening as the ups and downs are, they can also be addictive. When we aren’t emotionally stable, we often accept any breadcrumbs thrown our way.

I spent 6 years accepting breadcrumbs. I was insecure and lusting after emotionally unavailable people who didn’t want me back. I had no idea what an emotionally secure relationship looked like.

Until I changed my attachment style to secure after years of being anxious-avoidant.

Here are 4 things emotionally secure people don’t do in relationships.

1. Shut off their emotions

Emotionally secure people are comfortable with being open and vulnerable. You can talk about how much you love your partner without freaking them out.

I didn’t know how to express my feelings in a healthy way. Secure people are comfortable with having emotions and confronting them.

2. Cling onto you for dear life

Independence is easy for secure people, and they don’t mind if you do the same. You won’t get 500 messages a day complaining about how angry they are at you for not replying instantly.

I was a clingy person in my first relationship, I couldn’t leave my ex-girlfriend’s side. When you’re emotionally insecure, it can feel like you’re facing abandonment at any moment.

They trust their partners. When you feel secure within yourself, nobody can shake you from your tree.

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3. Play mind games

When secure people know what they want, they go for it. When you ask “what are we?” they’ll be upfront and tell you. They won’t run away had hide from adult topics.

Emotionally insecure people will keep their options open. They’re afraid of commitment. Secure people will make it known they love you and care about you.

They are in it for the long-run, they know what they want. You won’t need to second guess your partner or their motives, because they’re genuine and honest.

4. Set unrealistic expectations of their partners

Emotionally insecure people set unrealistic expectations of what their ideal partner looks like. But I’ll tell you a secret. They’ll never find their dream partner.

Do you know why? Because the person doesn’t exist! Creating a dream partner with unrealistic expectations is code for:

These people will never be happy with anyone. Secure people accept their partners for the person they are. Warts and all.

Summary

Emotionally securely people are comfortable within themselves. When you’re comfortable within yourself, you don’t feel the need to play games.

Talking about emotions doesn’t feel like it’s the end of the world either. You don’t cling onto your partner for dear life because you’re terrified of being alone.

When you’re emotionally secure, you’re unshakable.

A few weeks ago I was going through some personal pain in my life and overreacted to something silly. Afterward, I felt embarrassed to have acted that way in front of my partner. I wondered to myself, why would he want to spend his life with me if I had these kinds of moments?

When I apologized the next morning, my partner reacted with nothing but kindness and understanding.

It has taken me several years for me to accept this but I have come to realize that the love my partner has for me isn’t conditional. He truly accepts me for the person that I am and loves me even though I come with some quirks and faults.

If you are anything like me and need a little reminder sometimes, here are four signs that your partner loves you unconditionally.


1. They trust you completely

I have been in relationships where my boyfriends would go through my phone and then congratulate me on not cheating. Needless to say, I was not happy and it showcased the lack of trust.

Going through someone’s phone and finding no evidence of them cheating on you isn’t trusting them. Instead, you are violating their trust and showing that you don’t respect their boundaries.

If you are in a new relationship with someone that seems stable, secure, and happy, then you can’t project previous trust issues on them. It’s important to keep an eye out for any red flags but you shouldn’t need proof of their loyalty.

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2. They support your dreams and ambitions

Right before graduating from college, I was in a relationship with my first serious love. I overheard him say to another one of my friends while we were all out at a bar saying “I don’t want her to go to graduate school, I just want her to marry me.

He wanted different things than I did and often would do things to try to give me to give up on my dreams.

The right partner won’t do this at all. Instead, they will encourage you and they will do everything in their power to help you succeed at your dreams and ambitions.


3. They are transparent/honest with you

Therapy ended up changing my life. I found a fantastic therapist that helped me work through my childhood trauma as well as several emotionally abusive relationships.

On the other hand, when I was in a toxic relationship my partner did everything he could to stop me from seeing a therapist and succeeded. Looking back, I realized it was because he most likely knew and feared that I would wake up to how he was treating me and leave.

When someone loves you unconditionally they are going to encourage you to do everything you can to feel better.


4. They love you in the bad times

At first, I feared that he would leave. I feared that my actions would scare him away and that he wouldn’t want me anymore.

Yet even in the worst of times, he didn’t leave.

Recently we went through a very traumatic experience as a couple. It was during that experience that I realized that even though we were both uncertain of the future, my partner had no doubt that I would be part of his.

No relationship is perfect.

There are going to be ups and downs and there are going to be people that aren’t right for us in the roller-coaster of dating and love.

However, when you find the right person, and you realize that their love is not conditional, it makes the entire journey worth it.

Source : Medium